Question: What
are some ways to calm an anxious person with dementia?
Answer: All behavior is meaningful, expressing what
the person cannot express in words. Look beyond the words
spoken and the behavior, they most likely are expressing
feeling lost, insecure or frustrated.
It is important to understand what causes people with
dementia to be anxious? They are afraid of anything new or
unexpected, frustrated when they are not understood.
Frustrated, perhaps ashamed, trying something too difficult
and failing, or being scolded or rushed by a tired,
irritated care partner!
They may simply need things slowed down or need reassurance
that they are valued and safe. Get and maintain eye contact,
speak slowly, reassure. Take a breath, slow your pace to
match theirs. Apologize for rushing or scolding. Apology
does wonder to calm a person with dementia. Stop what you
are doing that is causing the anxiety. Start again with a
new approach; one that will promote success and create a
positive atmosphere.
My family member is very anxious and fretful whenever I
drive her home after dark. She flails her hands and cries,
“Where are we going?” “I don’t want to go!” “Take me home!”
My response is NOT to answer her questions, but to ask her
if she feels safe with me. I take her hand and simply say,
“You are always safe with me.” I often hold and stroke her
hand all the way home. Home is a place of safety and
comfort. We can create a safe feeling by our behavior.
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