100% Quick Fix?
By Tom Quirk

Scituate - Frugality was once a wise concept and you saved until you could afford a purchase with cash, because credit wasn’t always available. Today, family pets are issued credit and a “Big Mac” bought with a credit card. Some students are in serious financial straits as freshmen. Fast food and disposable “everything” symbolize our world of instant gratification. Whatever we want, we want now!

Some situations defy a quick fix or any resolution. We should approach these, one piece at a time and try to rise above them. We should strive to be creative in maneuvering around any disability. It is far better to triumph over some aspects of the disability than to give up entirely.

1. A dominating matter is a part of our life, but it shouldn’t be all consuming. We need a larger perspective that allows us to rise above the problem.

2. A problem may be beyond our control, but our response is not. We must refuse to allow it to take us over, and have our response make us a victim.

3. Professional help from counselors can help us to the appropriate resolution for our situation.

4. Individuals and family members are often involved in circular talking and thinking about the problem. This doesn’t result in any resolution and frequently makes an idol of it; it should be avoided.

5. Realize that you are not the only one facing this problem. Others have been there before and found a healthy approach to their personal problem resolution; they want to help you.

There may not be a 100% resolution to your problem and you may never return to the life as it was. Piecemeal problem solving is best, whereas constant fixation on any loss is counter-productive. Objective medical and professional consultation is often helpful and support groups are beneficial in most cases. Individuals further along a similar path to the difficult one that you are on, from their experience have learned and developed compensatory techniques that have worked for them. Their support group participation helps their recovery and affirms their wish to share, in order to ease your journey. The support group dynamic is available to brain aneurysm survivors and their family caregivers.

About The Author
For more information you may contact Tom Quirk at (781) 545-2300, extension 628 or via email at tfquirk@aol.com. For more detailed information about brain aneurysms, please visit the Brain Aneurysm Foundation’s web site at www.bafound.org.