By Diane Simoni,
Mansfield – Many find delight in giving to charities. The delight is the “carrot” that might keep them doing “good.” People generally enjoy supporting the causes they find dear. And, perhaps they feel good because they did their duty or had a spiritual experience by their “involvement in something larger than they are.”
Yet, when it comes to charity in the home or in our relationships, barriers can exist and limit the practice of charity and the good feeling that can come from being generous.
Charity in couples means:
Exploring the Barriers
Here are some questions to ponder as to what might be hindering you from charity towards your partner:
Exploring well the barriers is the first step to making things more pleasant at home. Addressing the barriers is the next. Often, merely exploring them deeply is enough to allow us to step over them. Contemplating strategies to overcome the barriers can be done alone or with your spouse, a friend, a pastor, rabbi or therapist. Fortunately, just practicing charity within the couple can give us enough “carrots” to keep on going. And, when our partner senses our efforts, he or she may be encouraged by our example to do the same.
About The Author
Diane Simoni, LICSW, is a clinical social worker who provides counseling to couples, caregivers, families and adults with signs or symptoms of depression or anxiety facing overwhelming stressors, chronic illness or disability. She can be reached via email at Info@caringandcopingwell.com or by cell phone on (508) 243 – 7481. For more information, visit www.caringandcopingwell.com.